FRESH BULL
Every single moment is a chance to turn it all around, but it starts and ends with you.
I have to ask… are you stressed? Are you genuinely happy? You’re not alone. In fact, the numbers of students, teachers, parents/guardians have been stressed or unhappy for some time. And it is the number one obstacle people are facing today when trying to live a balanced and fulfilled life. I know most of us think we are relatively happy, but are we truly? Could we improve just a bit more daily or do we have to eat the same fresh bull? Some of those Stoics, bibliophiles, thinkers, philosophers, and life learners have been exploring the question of happiness for thousands of years and the theories abound.
In these minutes reading you will learn not only what I have discovered and practice for balance but how to conquer your days with some tips, methods, or strategies at the end. I truly appreciate you sharing your time with me this day and I hope you enjoy and share with others.
Medically reviewed by Dr. Scott Dershowitz, LMSW, and CMC.
— Depression derives from the word “depressus” in Latin. The word “Depressus” means pressing down, suffering, exhausted, woeful, sorrowful, discouraged, and deaden. And the origin of the word “anxiety” is “anxietas” in Ancient Greek and its meaning is “worry, fear, curiosity.” The word “stress”, which comes from ‘estrica’ in Latin, refers to a warning sign on the health and peace of people, is perceived as a warning and therefore, it represents physiological and psychological reactions that are not distinct towards the poorly addressed events. Stress is regarded as a situation that shapes the attitudes and behaviors of the individual and the whole environmental, individual and organizational factors to be effective in certain proportions..
And to a greater extent — 10.6% of youth (or over 2.5 million youth) cope with severe major depression. The number of youths experiencing severe Major Depressive Episodes (MDE) increased by 197,000 from last year's per: https://www.mhanational.org/issues/2022/mental-health-america-youth-data
I know this isn’t the best topic or the best subject most ordinary or average people like to discuss. However, it does need attention. The positive kind of attention because it effects so many in our homes, schools, churches, workplaces, and communities. People of all ages get overwhelmed, stress, or depressed but something is different and it isn’t the people. I have come to believe and accept the results. This difference comes from society — our environments: mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially. The good news is everyday comes with an opportunity to change that IF you truly want too! The change starts with small details and the amount of attention you place on willpower, discipline, and reeducation.
You see those with a fixed mindset won’t step outside the comfort zone for long term results. In fact, they won’t grow because they believe we cannot change our biological circumstances or cognitive abilities. However, Dr. Carol Dweck describes it this way:“My work bridges developmental psychology, social psychology, and personality psychology, and examines the self-conceptions (or mindsets) people use to structure the self and guide their behavior. My research looks at the origins of these mindsets, their role in motivation and self-regulation, and their impact on achievement and interpersonal processes.” You might sum it up this way — what is within our control to foster successes or achievements. All to often… we see books, magazines, or articles selling people on the Secrets of the World’s Most Successful people which are overflowing on the shelves of bookstores or online business journals trying to share some tips, strategies, methods, or principles that may give meaning to a useful or more productive lifestyle.
In my professional opinion — people of all ages must learn to be: mentally, emotionally, and spiritually strong. We can all agree that each of us will face circumstances, situations, events, or setbacks in this life. We cannot allow those to define us or worse…to derail us or sabotage us from achieving the balance or fulfilled life we truly want.
WE MUST UNDERSTAND THAT WE CANNOT CHANGE ALL OUTSIDE EVENTS! WE MUST UNDERSTAND THAT WE CANNOT CONTINUE THE PROCESS OF SKIMMING FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, TIKTOK, YOUTUBE, HULU, or NETFLIX.
As much as we're interested in those things. We need to be more involved in becoming resourceful. With that being said, let's dive into the some tips and strategies that will be resourceful.
What are ten tips smarter people use these days:
- Read. Read from books that help improve your vision on life.
- Surround yourself with positive people. They don’t need to be smart or smarter. They could be positive, hard-working, disciplined. As long as you surround yourself with people who have their own view and thinking, you’ve successfully surrounded yourself with good people.
- Write. Try out writing every day. It helps you keep things in perspective. I think, therefore I am. How about, I write, therefore I am. It’s a fun twist to explore.
- Don’t quit social media. I quit social media for a few months and while it had its positives, it also came with a few drawbacks. In today’s world it’s important to stay connected. It’s enough to make sure one doesn’t spend too much time on social media. But why quit if you can use it for good?
- Learn to tell stories.
- Talk to as many people as you’re willing to do. Be open, stay open, stay learning.
- Think! Don’t live your life on autopilot.
- Stay on your own path. Ask yourself where you’re wanting to be in a few years and try to work towards that instead of following the crowd.
- Learn to be happy no matter the outcome.
- Learn to face your fears, instead of avoiding them. It’s tough and difficult but it is indeed what keeps you moving forward!
What I have learned or re-educated myself on is habits and strategies that have put me behind the wheel. Dr. Joseph Luciani, who is a psychologist in New York City — said: “Viewing depression or stress as a tendency rather than an illness puts you behind the wheel, so to speak, and may help you change your life.” I truly believe Dr. Luciai is absolutely correct along with other great psychologist. If we want to be more productive despite stress or depression we need to see depression or stress as a habit. A defective habit. If you’d like to read — than I recommend Dr. Joseph Luciani's self-coaching book, The Powerful Program to Beat Anxiety and Depression.
With all this in mind, stress, anxiety, and depression is a state of mind and body. We have the power and abilities to learn to identify your external challenges as exactly that, external things that have caused you to stress or become depressed. It is finding the trigger and doing the opposite. We must realize that we can’t control all the external cards in life. Whether it’s a difficult co-worker, family members, relationship or a global pandemic, you can’t do anything about it. It is what it is — What you can control is how you respond to life and all the ups and downs that inevitably come with it. My students are learning this now in sixth grade. Because I want them to be prepared for the future of education and life. I would also highly recommend that you read the book my students are using in class, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey.
With gratitude,
Coach Frank Sagasta
Husband, Father, and Educational Leader
Coachfranksagasta LLC, ©️ 2021
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