YOUR NOT GOOD!!

YOUR NOT A GOOD COACH. . . 

We can never achieve our full potential or ability to climb the mountains of success if we are more concerned and focused on competing with one another. Competition is a reaction to today's culture and society. We have all been trained to compete to some degree, but never trained on the consequences. Yes, it fosters innovation, productivity, and growth, all of which create wealth and a brand, but competition breeds fear within. Competition eventually destroys us by degrading us to imitations. Competition breeds conformity, infantilism, and mediocrity. I am going to share some value with you, that has changed my view and lifestyle along with my professional stands as a coach. My point is not to excuse or condemn any of these practices, but merely to pinpoint the crucial role of competition, as opposed to greed, in their spread. I focus here on ethics, not efficiency. The relationship between the two is complex. In many cases, ethical norms evolve to sustain proper behavior and attitude when it comes to competition. 

I used to think that yelling at my kids and players was a great way to motivate them, but I woke up and read between the line of truth. It tears down self-esteem rather than building it up. I was creating monsters not leaders. In fact, I was young and dumb in both positions as a husband, father, and coach. I created an extremely unsafe environment for my kids and athletes. I used humiliation and fear to get my views across. They all need to understand my view of competition but was it the correct view of competition? I was wrong on many levels. In many cases, competition will arise if the opportunity is there or the environment encourage it, whether or not it is intended. David Bergin once said; "There is an example of a school administration that posted an honor roll based on the grade point average, thereby encouraging grade competition amongst students, i.e. grade is more important than understanding, and this was most likely done without thought on how it will affect students’ way of learning." 

It does not matter whether it is a child or adult learning concepts, principles, standards, or values is best known by taking action, observation, smelling, listening, touching, or tasting as well as thinking, either creatively or logically. Competition can set-up a pathetic craving for words and action of praise i.e. "Everyone is a winner - Everyone gets a trophy." Thus the mind and heart are enslaved by the craving for the good opinion of others. And so, we can see it is a craving for personal recognition or affirmation which is merely childish in the eyes of great professionals and legends long before us. Being ambitious and humble are far in difference but both have a purpose in displaying the initiative in greatness. He/she will not stand outside the door of your opinion begging with their bowl pleading for approval. He/she will not run, jump, steal, murder, lie or do anything necessary to win the praise of others. 

"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail." 

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Ralph Waldo Emerson has advocated in some way or another that all readers avoid following the path of others and instead to trust and follow their own path. Not to compete against one another but to make our own path and to go a blazing. Competition breeds conformity and according to the great professor Emerson, is death. Competition kills personal initiative, responsibility, believism, desire, and optimism which is essential in the time of self-reliance. We live in a time of self-reliance. For it is the foundation of productivity, efficiency, and self-sustaining societies and cultures. Never let someone miss lead you, as to where competition can take you! It can be rather costly. We as humans have adequately developed skills over time throughout conditioning, practice, and reinforcement. Remember, self-reliance and self-dependence accomplish that which competition cannot never touch. 

My mission as a husband, father, a coach is to teach all people both young and aged. To help them grow as individuals, teams so that they too, can become better people in their homes, communities, and the world. I have learned much from great men and women that entered my life. I have made the best investment of applying genuine information that has changed my situation and position on life. If you have always believed or been trained to be very competitive for success, you might be surprised by what you uncover. 

Employers and business leaders need people who can think for themselves - who can take initiative and be solutions to problems." 

- Stephen Covey 

*Speical Thanks...

Willard & Marguerite Beecher 

David Bergin (1995) Academic Competition 

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1841) Essay 

Damon Burton & Thomas Raedeke (2008) Sports Psychology 

Jeff Janssen 

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Best, Coach Frank Sagasta 

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Don't ever get in the habit of measuring life's journey. Life is about the process and that process may bring pain or suffering. That is part of the process. Of course, life can bring joy and happiness. Human beings struggle with circumstances or some type of psychological pain: difficult emotions and thoughts, their unpleasant memories, or unwanted environments. We sometimes spend more time thinking about them, worry about them, resenting them, anticipating and dread them. At the same time, we all can demonstrate enormous courage, love, faith, compassion, and a remarkable ability to move ahead even with difficulties facing us in life. Of course, when your fully alive, present, and committed. This short blog is about how to move from suffering to engagement with life and to see your gift of determination and always resting with full satisfaction. Rather than waiting to win the internal struggle with your own self, this blog is about living now and living fully. 

Some of you have heard and some of you have never heard of the famous story of Noah from the Bible. What we can all learn from this story and many like it is the example of obedience, determination, passion, persistence, productivity and internal drive. As I reflected on this story the other morning. It had me thinking hard on the subject passion and persistence along with the rest. I thought about my passion and my purpose in life. You see, Noah wasn't a shipbuilder and in those days, it didn't rain much. Yet God commanded Noah to build a ship. I know it seems far-fetched to a non-believer, but the accounts are true. This was a test and a mighty test for one person and his family. 

"That which does not kill us makes us stronger." 

- Friedrich Nietzsche 

How many of us have been through a test? and no, not those man-made test in schools or some business. I am talking about a test in life, maybe personally or professionally but you've had to undergo something that brought the pain of some sort. For many, these struggles or conditions have helped setup values, standards, and principles which are all beliefs that influence people’s behavior and decision-making. Just like Noah who had to go through some pain to see the principles and value. We too, need to bring that light into this dark world. Way too often we measure ourselves throughout this journey and not take into account the applications. Noah had to submit to God. Noah had to submit to his wife and children throughout the process. Although God has never asked me to build an ark, He has asked me to do something that is just as challenging and despite the failures or setbacks, I have faced in life. He has asked me to be faithful day by day in every way. . . living the Kaizen life! 

I truly believe God has given each person on this earth a purpose in life. Of course, some work harder than others for their purpose and on the path of their purpose. For me, it has been to persevere over the challenges of being a child abused statistic, an orphan, a college dropout, etc. God has asked me to trust him to wake up with the lungs of inspiration and to set my feet on Gods green earth with enthusiasm. He said to shower down with determination and to brush my teeth with optimism. It truly is satisfying to know that these same tools were passed down to other important people of history. The nurture and admonition of the Lord have brought me to the mountain of being a faithful husband, father, friend, educator, mentor, and coach. However, there were many times where I wanted to throw in the towel and take my own life. There was a time in life where I wanted to walk away to escape my responsibilities of being a husband, and father. I didn't want to obey what God set up for me and because of that, I missed many opportunities. The greatest opportunity that was lost, was time! All because I didn't want to commit. 

"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. - Albery Schweitzer

Let me tell you of a story of another man that faced challenges, but was able to overcome because God told him too! Dr. George Washington Carver was known as an agriculturalist, botanist, chemist, and developer of three to four hundred by-products from peanuts. George Washington Carver didn't count his journey because it wasn't over as he might have thought for a short moment. George Washington Carver was a son of a slave mother. One night George and his mother were stolen from the Carvers farm by some bushwhackers. The Carvers put up an award for the boy and his mother, but only the boy was returned to the Carvers. The mother was never heard from again. The Carvers took Geroge in and gave him love along with a strong foundation of education. George Washington Carver had to overcome his color. He had to overcome his health, George developed a horrible caught and his voice was never the same. Despite his circumstances or conditions, he was led to pray. So, he prayed, prayed, and prayed. Yes, George prayed for the secret of Gods universe. Of course, God was listening because God did bless and inspired him with a universe of knowledge through a peanut. This same boy who survived his childhood as a slave. This same boy that was parentless and lost his ability to speak with clarity. Yet, George stayed committed to what God gave him to discover. The simple and small peanut that would change his world and the world around him all because of his obedience. 

The primary purpose of this blog is for you to see or find your purpose and to go all in with obedience and commitment. For you to see your purpose despite those circumstances, struggles, challenges, conditions or failures. It is your responsibility, do not waste time living in someone else shoes when the Creator gave you the opportunity to live with genuine power. Measure the process. Measure the applications and apply them to your path. I promise they'll open up new opportunities for you to see more of your drive and purpose. These are things the average person would walk right over. . . if your reading this, you're not average! The average has waved their rights to create happiness and success. 

Here's some question to help. . . 1 meaning not so much and 5 meaning completely. 

1) I am usually, boarded in life 1 2 3 4 5 Enthusiastic.

2) Life today seems 1 2 3 4 5 completely routine.

3) In life, I have 1 2 3 4 5 no aim or clear goals.

4) My personal existence on this 1 2 3 4 5 earth is utterly meaningless. 

5) I have too many 1 2 3 4 5 distractions going on in my life. 

6) I wish to find my 1 2 3 4 5 purposes in this life and I want it to be meaningful. 

7) Every day seems harder 1 2 3 4 5 and harder to commit to something. 

8) If I could go back 1 2 3 4 5 I would change my life.

9) I promise 1 2 3 4 5 to follow those with great advice to move my life from point (A - Z).

10) I have to create a life 1 2 3 4 5 of great habits, hobbies, interests, obligations, and responsibility. 

Here are some habits to help you along the journey

1) Self-Talk
The greatest benefit to man is the ability to control his/her self. A self-talking person is a powerful tool that has tremendous quantities.   

2) Remove unimportant/distractions from your life
It truly is amazing what happens when you have total focus. The benefit is that you'll find yourself focusing on the important things more, which is key. 

3) Setup limits or boundaries 
We set limits and boundaries in our lives to keep us from going off track. A man has never traveled beyond the thought of the unknown in space. Why? because we have set up boundaries that keep us alive. Don't waste time going beyond a boundary to only find yourself coming back to the beginning. Yes, make your own path in life, but make your own boundaries too!

4) Timeline
Set up a timeline or goal board that holds you accountable. This a great tool to keep you on track and within the boundaries. The benefit behind a timeline is the focus you put behind it that really takes flight.

5) Environment
It is time to create an environment internally and externally. The space that aligns with your timeline and goals. And don't forget to add the 80/20 rule to your space, 20% is focused on the tasks that mean the most and have a great impact. Everything else is the effort to get there. Be inspired my friend and achieve on!!! 

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel." 

- Maya Angelou 

Best, 

Coach Frank Sagasta

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As I get ready to turn forty and think of my life so far and what's to come, I fully realize how much I've grown and been sharpen because of questions and decisions. I have always been captivated and insatiably curious about certain things in life. Every day before class, I'll examine the right discussion question fitting for the day and my age group. This is a wonderful tool to use in life and with extraordinary benefits behind it. During our life's span will exhibit the unique ability of curiosity at some point or another. I truly believe that curiosity is a magical or key ingredient which allows us all to explore alternatives for new possibilities by asking the "what if" question. What if we put our whole heart into something? What if we made the right choices every day? And so, on!

I asked a few businesses over the course of this last month about the missing link in today's culture of employees. I asked; "What are you looking for in great employee's?" Nine business out of ten came back with; "integrity, work ethics, motivation, and responsibility." All good answers to help me with my class this year. I was absolutely curious to see what was missing. Integrity and work ethic was a great answer, as well as motivation and responsibility. In theory, anyone that pours into their work with heart, passion, commitment along with those other areas such as integrity, motivation. and responsibility should be selected for a better position, more responsibility and ultimately promotion. You might say; "SHOW ME THE MONEY. . ." a great line from the movie, (Jerry Maguire). Why? It is crystal clear, that anyone that shows those characteristics herein is a great person and worthy of a position within a company. 

But after hearing from these companies assure me that there's a lack of integrity, motivation, and enthusiasm in our culture today when it comes to having great employees. I began researching and probing certain employees that would talk about their position and company. Of course, not many employees were willing to open up, because of fear of termination. Of course, I prepared five simple question you could probably answer yourself at the end of this writing. Either way, this behavior has affected the level of ethics and responsibility in the workforce. If individuals vowed to give more time toward being responsible we wouldn't see the effects of poor customer service or poor work ethics today. Of course, throughout my observation and my professional opinion. It starts with attitude and questions. I still recall John Maxwell, preaching or coach on the value of attitude my. . . my what a powerful weapon we all poses. But Ralph Waldo Emerson, summed it up many years ago, that "Ability without honor has no value," it truly made me pause and think hard on the subject of value. What do I offer in value and how is the attitude? Do you offer feelings or principles? Of course, he went on to say, that "If you would lift me up you must be on higher ground." This implied that if you are going to be in a position to help someone in life personally or professionally you must have strong values and integrity in your life. Becoming a great employee or business owner requires an excellent attitude of a worthy value, integrity among other things such as questions and motivation to get yourself out of bed because it's your responsibility. Mr. Emerson capped off his lecture by saying, "What lies behind you and what lies before you are tiny matters compared to what lies within you." I know this takes practice, and I know it takes commitment, but first, it is about making the right decisions.

Life is filled with choices, decisions, and questions. However, it is filled with answers and results too! Therefore, it truly doesn't matter whether it is for your personal or professional use or gain, we all make them! Some can be dangerous and some can take you from good to great or great to extraordinary, either way, it is how we embrace them that truly makes the difference. I know from experience that when I made the decision to rewire my mind and change my attitude. Life really began. I started to have more clarity. In doing, so, opportunities started to unravel. I know from experience and from an educational standpoint that when you ask the right questions. You get the right answers. And if you make the right choices. You get the right results. But if you don't like them, more then likely those are the ones that are good for you and help you grow. Confusious once stated; "The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask is a fool for life." And he was right! Way too, often we see people making mistakes or were in a circle of continual mistakes, all because we didn't ask the question or make the right choice. Is there value here and do I offer value to the group or company? We can and should expect the greatest return from every person we deal with or come in contact with "IF" we share our greatness with them. 

So, in closing... I need you to think hard about the questions and decisions life or company has given you. Then make time to answer them and follow your path. Francois M. Arouet once said; "Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers." 

What are your values and do you bring them to the table of life every opportunity? is it your integrity, family, health, phone, or friends aligned with your values?

What do you know today that can affect your tomorrow? It is always the obstacles or circumstances we face that we do not see as lessons or blessings. 

What is getting in the way of your goals or dreams today? Sometimes our ego and pride get in the way for many and this cause conflict.

Do you have a clear understanding of your path? It is easy to buy a map, but knowing how to read it can be challenging. Real leaders are readers.  

How is the character of your circle displayed? is the environment of friends and family in the same path as your destiny. Can the conversations and actions help you to grow or do they bring you down?     

Do you regularly display your standards? is their time in your day or month that you're contributing toward your standards?

What type of books are you applying to your growth? As I said; real leaders are readers. . . and they all apply genuine information to their lives and others within their home or business.



"We make our world significant by the courage of our questions and by the depth of our answers." - Carl Sagan 

Best Coach Frank Sagasta

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