Dear Readers,
I have a question before you get started: Is success or happiness missing from your life? And if so, why? Please, answer the question once you’ve finished the read, thank you!
In my professional opinion, timeouts are needed in life. In fact, I took a timeout of my busy schedule Wednesday togo out hiking in the Arizona mountains. As I was seating in the hot spring, I began to listen to my inner thoughts as well as the conversations there at the spring between other visitors. Of course, after being there for hours, it was time to make our way back to the vehicle and to head home. This topic was stuck on my mind and I wanted to share with you!
Success vs Happiness
What is success? Success is defined as the accomplishment of a name, an attainment of popularity or profit, which it thought was fascinating, and attaining prosperity. I truly believe that we ought to create the conditioning of our lives that foster success for ourselves and others we love. As a father, educator, and citizen of this country. It has never been more important then now to pass down information to change the situation for someone. Of course, I believe we all need some type of postsecondary education to prepare us to live a economically self-sufficient life and to deal with the increasingly complex social, political, and cultural issues. I mean this is what defines successful people today. We are all a miracle from above. However, the pilot light of some people just went out and no one has lit the pilot since.
Success is too often confused with capital gain, fame, position, and gratification. It's easy to see how this happens. We live in a world that tells or expresses with us that it's important to be rich and that it's important to have a lot of things that demonstrate your wealth, designer swag, an expensive sports car. Everywhere we look magazines, newspapers, pictures, television, and social media that are trying to feed our emotions, or feelings to be rich and famous. I could mention great names of highly effective individuals but let's drop Dave Chappelle, who once had a great show on the Comedy Central. And then he walked away for a long timeout. In fact, what fans didn’t know, Dave was unhappy. He had to stop making his show because he had a nervous breakdown from the pressure of being a success in the wrong terms, it was for the eye of others. Dave Chappelle is one of the classic example of how being successful is much different from being happy. He had attained success by our society's standards, but that couldn't make him or his family happy. People who think that having all of the things that you want is the same as being happy that is absolutely confused. With 7.6 billion people on this earth, wouldn’t it be better to avoid the opinions or standards of others? I know it is difficult to control other people's opinions, and so it's not a good idea to try to base your happiness on what other people think of as success.
If you’ve had a moment of clarity, you know what I’m talking about. And that means your paving the path toward your own definition of success. No more living on the opinions or emotional needs others. To change any aspect of your life, you have to change your thinking and hearts desire. Napoleon Hill was absolutely correct when he said: “The greatest application of applied faith is learning the art of keeping your mind focused in what you want.”
Do you want to move ahead in your life, career, relationships, confidence, health or personal happiness? Typically it is a lack of self-belief, focus and action caused by a whole host of thoughts, expressions, fears and ideas that hold you back from the happiness and fulfilment you are seek. Happiness can come from a sense of personal accomplishment and achievement. Of course, some doctors would disagree with my words, but my field of life is education which is continuous training, not a practice. So, why is happiness and success confusing. I would say so many of my students spend their time chasing somewhat undefined success and they postpone their happiness until they’ve achieve it. They spend most of their time beating themselves up chasing something they can't even put their finger on. And their denied to freely think or to be themselves which may bring happiness. Some have meaningful goal but no one to teach them how to attain them. I remember my high school hero was a substitute teacher Mr. Stewart. Everyone thought he was a tough teachers, he had goal of being an actor and today, he’s doing just that. He achieved his greatness and his goal. Mr. Stewart found happiness. I was not at the very top of my class, but I liked all my history classes both in high school and college, that I'd taken. I was the student that feared testing and got a couple of bad grades during quizzes, but I would stay for extra help, otherwise I couldn’t play football. And my grades got better, this kind of happiness is based on how I felt about myself. I have interviewed many people and they all have found their definition of happiness. From having kids, getting married, buying a house, taking a vacation, buying a new car, etc. We all have tried to do something that was difficult, and failed, but don’t let that rob you, from your happiness. Remember there’s room for possibilities in life.
Keys
- Be yourself and no one else
- Be appreciative of who you are in life
- Be fearless and let the past go
- Be responsible for your actions
- Be focused on your goals and dreams
- Be careful who’s in your circle of your thoughts.
- Be honest with yourself
- Be hungry to change
BE ABOUT IT
Best,
Coach Frank Sagasta
(c) Coachingbeyond, LLC 2018
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